Sometimes when people write blogs they make things pretty, stage their pictures and sound as if life is all sunshine and roses. “All you do is this, this and this and you too could end up with a beautiful new bedroom/kitchen/office. And your floors will clean themselves and you will never have laundry again.”
Don’t get me wrong, that definitely attracts readers. Especially me. I love me a great tutorial. I like for things to seem easy and peaceful. I love a beautiful picture with kids playing quietly and no crumbs on the floor. But, let’s face it people, that just isn’t real.
In an effort to keep things real here I’d like to give a bit of a reality check. “A Glimpse Into the Life of a Suburban Mom” kind of a thing. And when you read it, know that it’s not just me. This is the story of moms everywhere, since the dawn of time. Even that Crafty-McGrafty-Home-Decor-Genius-Super-Woman-Blogger-Mom.
Picture this:
It’s Friday morning and I’m up and ready to go. It’s been a long week. My husband and I are getting over strep throat. Tuesday I took my three year old in for the strep test. Positive. He is contagious so we can’t volunteer in classrooms or go to playgroup at the library. Wednesday morning, just to be safe, I take my older two kids in to be tested before school. Ellie, Positive. Payton, Negative. Well, at least one of us is healthy. Payton heads to school, Ellie heads home to quarantine for two days.
Finally Friday comes. Ellie can go back to school. Shiloh can be in public. Finally, a regular day. And even better, we are heading out of town tonight for the long MLK Jr. weekend with friends and their two little ones. There are things to do to get us ready (and I’m just itching to get out of the house after such a long quarantine period) so after the kiddos get to school Shiloh and I head to store after store after store. A lot of errands have built up in the days we had to stay home.
About halfway through our morning of errands I get a call from our doctor’s office. Miss Nurse would like to tell me that they sent Payton’s strep culture out for a 24 hour test to verify the results and it, in fact, came back positive for strep. I decide not to mention that it has actually been 48 hours, not 24. He’s contagious and needs to be picked up from school. He also has medicine waiting for him at the pharmacy. Oh snap.
I’m at Walmart getting groceries for our weekend away. I call my husband as I continue my shopping, knowing that if I don’t shop now, I won’t be able to do it at all. He says he’ll call our friends and let them know so they can back out of our trip if they want to. I say I’ll get his medicine at the pharmacy and pick him up at school.
Meanwhile, Shiloh hears that Payton is sick and begins to wail. “I don’t want Payton to be sick! Make him better!” Big tears roll down his face. He’s sobbing. I try to comfort him to no avail. I finish my shopping with my child in tears. There is no consoling him. The clerk at check out says how sweet it is that he’s concerned for his brother. Somehow, that is not comforting as I push my screaming child and a cart full of groceries to the car.
I decide to pick up Payton first because I’m starting to feel guilty that he’s been infecting other kids all week. I call on the way there and the secretary pulls him out of class. He’s waiting for me in the office when I get there. He is now in tears too. He doesn’t want to leave school. They were just about to play a math game. He thinks we can’t take our trip because of him. I assure him we are going, strep or not, because we need a vacation. That stops the tears. A still shaken Shiloh takes his brother’s hand and we walk to the car. I’m thinking of how we all need a serious nap.
We head to the pharmacy and take a number. It’s pretty busy so we’re still about ten numbers away from being called. Shiloh is asking for food. I look at my watch. Yes, it’s lunchtime. “Sorry buddy, I don’t have anything” doesn’t seem to be placating him. We read magazines for a while and I can tell Shiloh is getting antsy. Finally they call our number and I give the pharmacist all of our information. When he checks the computer he says, “I’m sorry. I see the positive test results, but your doctor hasn’t entered the prescription yet. We’ll have to call her. Please sit down and we’ll call you when it’s ready.”
So we sit. I’m frustrated. Why would they tell me to come here if the prescription wasn’t entered?
That’s when things go downhill fast. Shiloh is whining for food. There is a coffee cart just outside full of baked goods that he wants but can’t have because he’s allergic to eggs and nuts. His tired three year old mind is having a hard time dealing with that. He starts to climb on the chairs, under the chairs, over the backs of chairs. I wasn’t prepared for this. I have no snacks or toys with me. I’ve broken the sacred mom rule.
It’s nearing nap time and he’s getting cranky. I’m getting cranky. And some people around us are getting cranky. Shiloh has now started to read a magazine over a strange man’s shoulder. Payton is worried that we will never be called. I’m starting to wonder if we were supposed to take a new number. So I go over and get one. A115. They are on A087. Great.
Shiloh is saying “no” to everything I tell him. He’s looking delirious and I’m just trying to keep us from diving deeper into chaos. He starts whining about something and flings himself on the floor. I pick him up, put his face inches from mine and say in my most serious mom tone, “That is NOT ok. We don’t throw tantrums to get our way.” I want to throw my own tantrum.
Just then a number is called. I pick up our stuff, push my way through the crowd and head to the counter. I don’t notice the woman I just stepped in front of. The pharmacist looks at me strangely. “What is your number ma’am?” he says. I can’t remember, but I thought it was the number just called. I then turn around and see Payton running across the room screaming, “That’s not our number!!” Everyone is looking at me. He’s right, that’s not our number. I had cut in front of the woman who really had that number. I do the walk of shame back to my seat.
Shiloh starts whining and saying “no” again so I pick him up and carry him over to the corner. I’m in the middle of a very serious explanation of what kind of behavior is expected (as Shiloh pouts at me in response) when Payton’s name is called. Of course. I run across the room with a pouty toddler and see that they have his medicine ready. All I have to do is pay.
Payton, however, is very worried about the number we took before. He is sitting halfway across the room shouting to me, “They didn’t call the number we took! What should we do with the number?!!!” He is seriously concerned and making a scene. As I pay, I tell him to throw it away. We don’t need it. Again, people are staring. Shiloh is crying. He has wandered over one window and is wailing next to a very uncomfortable looking lady.
I take our medicine, grab their hands and make a break for the parking lot. As the doors slide open and we start to head outside they call “A115″. Payton shouts, “That’s our number!” and turns to go back in. Payton likes to do things the right way. I, full of embarrassment and frustration, grab his hand, yank him outside and run for the car.
I hope no one in our family ever gets sick again because I have vowed to never return to that pharmacy.
Lessons learned:
1. Snacks are way more important to have than medicine. Leave the pharmacy, buy a snack, go back for medicine later.
2. Always bring these things everywhere I go: cars, coloring books, stickers, playdough, my ipod. Mom tools of the trade to keep kids entertained. Even when you don’t think you’ll need them.
3. Never, ever, under any circumstances, bring children to the pharmacy. I’m sure that’s what the people around me wanted to tell me.
4. If it’s unavoidable, if you HAVE to take them with you, stop at McDonald’s first and get them a Happy Meal to eat while they wait. Especially if it’s lunch time.
It’s not always this crazy and they are not always this tired, grumpy and whiny. Friday was just the perfect storm for me. Tired kids, tired mom, strep throat #5. Chaos at the pharmacy was bound to happen. We headed home and took very long naps.